Dear Bowl of Rice Advice,
What do you do when your ex won't talk to you after she dumped you via txt msg? Especially when the day before she did that, she said with apparent sincerity in her heart "I love you". We need to talk, or at least I do, and she won't reply to my msg's. I know she's hurting and I at least want to know she's ok.
Hope you've got some good advice on this one, cos I'm stumped, and desperate for her communication.
Dear Desperate,
I'm sorry you are going through this. I know every bone in your body feels the right thing to do is communicate with this woman. You may feel like if you could just talk with her, golden things would flow from your mouth to fix everything.
Stop.
Sit on your hands, hide your cell phone, deprogram her number if needed. Become very very occupied with anything you can come up with. Ask one of your friends to be your sponsor in this if needed. Because the very last thing you should do is try to force or demand communication if she needs space.
Even pushing communication for the best intentions puts pressure on her, and could likely show her that you are as desperate as you are feeling right now. She obviously can not handle the emotion of this situation for some reason, which she is demonstrating by breaking up with you via text. Women are not attracted to desperation at all. Give her space, freedom, and respect to follow her wishes at this time. You will not only save your dignity, you might even save your relationship.
Sincerely,
Bowl of Rice
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